I’m a big proponent of social media. In my vision, the next couple of years social media will change the online marketing. When you look closer, it already has with the rise of Facebook and Twitter. However, I never realized how you can use it to meet girls!
Earlier I wrote about how I like using foursquare to pick venues to meet girls. The next step is using actually using foursquare to talk to girls. That happened to me last week.
Around the Love Systems office is a coffee shop I always go to get an everything bagel with egg. It’s my favorite breakfast / lunch food there. As I walk in, I see a gorgeous girl sitting by herself reading a newspaper. I’m not really established yet in that coffee shop where I have social proof I can use to meet women.
To be honest, I was a little hesitant to approach her. I’m barely awake, she is the first stranger I talk to, I had to go back to work before Savoy breathes down my neck, and I was basically being a chicken. The first girl you want to meet in the daytime is always the hardest one. Once you’ve talked to that one, the other ones following are easy. This girl also didn’t give me any eye contact to make it a lukewarm approach so this was a real cold approach.
So there I was, chickening out whether I should talk to her. What do I do? The bad move: I get my phone and start checking Twitter and email. That’s the last thing you want to do before you do an approach. Don’t get yourself in an thinking state.
So I fire up foursquare on my iPhone and start checking in. Lo and behold, I can see that one person is checked in the same coffee shop I’m in. Maybe it was faith, but it was the girl I was hesitant to approach! The game gods wanted me to talk to her.
Whenever you check-in on foursquare, you can see the first name of every person and the first initial of the last name. With that knowledge, I knew had to approach this girl.
Me: Hey Dana.
Her: Huh? Do I know you?
Me: No you actually don’t, but I saw on foursquare that you’re checked in here. So I thought I’d talk to you while I wait for my bagel.
Her: Wow I can’t believe this.
Me: Yeah I know. Whoever thought foursquare could help charming single guys meet girls.
Her: [laughter]
Me: I’m Thanh btw.
Her: Well you know my name already. [shake hands]
Me: What is it that you’re reading about?
And off we go into our conversation. I knew that if I didn’t go talk to her, I would regret it. One thing Braddock always says on bootcamp is: rejection weighs ounces, regret weighs tons. I’ll take rejection over regret any time of the day. That’s easy to say in hindsight, but I cannot stress this enough.
I don’t want to ponder whether I should have talked to that girl. Or what if I should have done X or Y. What I do know is that the girl could have been my next girlfriend. Who knows. You won’t know till you have talked to the girl.
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